We See You: An Open Thread for Bisexual Women Dating Men
That was just a phase. I've only ever been with my boyfriend and one woman, so it was a big deal when I wrote down that I was bisexual on that form. At least for me; it was the first time I had identified myself in that way. A year or so later, when I got pregnant, we went back in to the doctor to confirm and after we had heard our baby's heartbeat for the first time, seen that it was a real being, that our lives were about to change, the nurse comes in to do my examination my boyfriend had left at this point and tells me in a sly voice, 'I guess we can cross the bisexual off your chart, can't we? I grew up in a Christian, conservative family. My parents never said that homosexuality was wrong, but they never really said it was OK either.
Be on the same wavelength to print Opens in new casement As I sat across from my date at a bar patio, the orange hue of street lights creating a halo around her, I collective the story of an awkward appointment. She asked for the gender of the person. Yes, this was a man, I informed her. It seemed like a harmless question until afterwards in the date, when she proceeded to talk about her poor experiences with bi women. She questioned but these people actually wanted to be asleep with women at all. The earth still assumes heterosexuality as the average and the world generally sees me as a straight woman rather than a bi nonbinary person. I felt that the way bisexual women after that femmes in particular are portrayed at the same time as performing their sexuality for men can have made it easier for him, along with other misogynistic ideas he may have already held, to adjust this dehumanization.
I know the answer people expect me to say. I love this individual person for who they are, after that they're enough to make me air happy and complete. It doesn't affair what's between someone's legs. It's barely their personality that matters. Yes, I absolutely miss men when dating women monogamously.