Gentlemen Speak: Guys Tell Us What Keeps Them from Asking You on a Date

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Business The Confidence Gap Evidence shows that women are less self-assured than men—and that to succeed, confidence matters as much as competence. Here's why, and what to do about it. May Issue Share For years, we women have kept our heads down and played by the rules. In the United States, women now earn more college and graduate degrees than men do. We make up half the workforce, and we are closing the gap in middle management.

My two cents? Fear of rejection. Alarm of rejection is the number individual reason a man who might be interested won't approach a woman before go a step further and ask her on a date. I was proud of these guys for saying it. They owned up to the fact that much of our floundering dating culture today is one we men need to take some advantage toward improving. I'm sorry to about it, but if a guy is just too insecure to ask a woman out, there's not much you can do.